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Fears and phobias affect us all. Here’s how to overcome them.

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Fears and phobias affect us all. Here’s how to overcome them.

As we go through life, we learn that some things, places, people, and situations are good for us, and others are not.

Looking further back, the world was arguably a much more dangerous place in the centuries and millennia past as we evolved. That has left a genetic imprint on us, leaving us with untaught aversions to many stimuli – from fire to snakes and spiders to dark places to heights to deep water.

Some of that aversion is completely understandable, even smart. But the world today is very different from what we evolved in as a species – far fewer threats of fatal diseases and violence today for most humans. Yet, there are many knee-jerk reactions and anxieties that we still hold on to that are now not relevant.

What’s worse is that we tend to pick up some additional fears – such as those of public speaking or crowded places. These fears, if irrational or out of proportion to the perceived threat, are called phobias.

If not managed or controlled over time, the consequences for us of our reactions to these fears are far more damaging than what we were scared about in the first place.

The top 10 phobias, based on the frequency of their occurrence, are:

  • Arachnophobia – fear of spiders
  • Ophidiophobia – fear of snakes
  • Acrophobia – fear of heights
  • Agoraphobia – fear of crowded or open spaces
  • Cynophobia – fear of dogs
  • Astraphobia – fear of thunder and lightning
  • Claustrophobia – fear of enclosed spaces
  • Hemophobia – fear of blood
  • Trypophobia – fear of irregular patterns or clusters of small holes or bumps
  • Social phobias – fear of social situations, interactions with others or performance anxiety.


It’s important to note that phobias can vary greatly from person to person and that this list only represents some of the most commonly reported phobias.

Fear and phobias are both related to feelings of anxiety and can be quite similar, but there are some key differences between the two:

  1. Intensity: Fear is a natural and normal emotion that we all experience in response to perceived danger or threat. Phobias, on the other hand, are more intense and persistent fears that are often irrational or excessive in relation to the actual level of danger posed by the feared object or situation.
  2.  Triggers: Fear can be triggered by a variety of things, whereas phobias are typically triggered by specific stimuli such as spiders, heights, or enclosed spaces.
  3. Duration: Fear is usually a temporary response that subsides once the perceived threat has passed. Phobias, however, can persist over a long period of time and may require treatment to overcome.
  4. Impact on daily life: While fear can be unpleasant and uncomfortable, it typically does not interfere with a person’s ability to function in their daily life. Phobias, however, can have a significant impact on a person’s life, making it difficult or even impossible to perform everyday tasks or participate in activities they enjoy.
  5. Treatment: Fear can often be managed through self-help techniques or short-term counseling. Phobias, however, may require more intensive treatment such as cognitive-behavioral therapy or exposure therapy.

In summary, fear is a natural response to danger or threat, while phobias are intense and persistent mental and physical discomfort that are often triggered by specific stimuli that may or may not deserve that reaction. Both have a significant impact on a person’s daily life.

Treating fears can be a challenging process, but it is definitely possible with the right approach. Here are some steps you can take to managing your fears:

Identify your fear: The first step in overcoming your fear is to identify what it is that you are afraid of. This will help you to better understand your fear and come up with a plan to tackle it.

Challenge your thoughts: Once you have identified your fear, challenge the negative thoughts associated with it. Ask yourself if your fear is based on facts or if it is just something that you have made up in your mind.

Take small steps: Start by taking small steps to face your fear. This can help you build confidence and gradually overcome your fear.

Practice relaxation techniques: Fear can often lead to physical symptoms such as increased heart rate and sweating. Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or meditation to help calm your mind and body.

Seek support: It can be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. They can provide you with encouragement, guidance, and help you develop coping strategies.

Celebrate progress: Celebrate the progress you make along the way, no matter how small. Overcoming fears is a journey, and it’s important to recognize your accomplishments and reward yourself for your efforts.

Be patient with yourself and stay committed to your goal. With persistence and determination, you can conquer your fears and live a more fulfilling life.

Here are some steps you can take to start overcoming your phobias:

1.Educate yourself: Learn more about your phobia and what causes it. Understanding the nature of your phobia can help you feel more in control and less overwhelmed by it.

2. Seek professional help: Consider seeing a mental health professional who specializes in treating phobias. They can help you develop a personalized treatment plan and provide you with the support you need to overcome your phobia.

3. Practice relaxation techniques: Phobias can often lead to physical symptoms such as increased heart rate and sweating. Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation to help calm your mind and body.

Exposure therapy: This involves gradually exposing yourself to the feared object or situation in a safe and controlled environment. Exposure therapy is typically done under the guidance of a therapist and can be very effective in helping you overcome your phobia.

Cognitive-behavioral therapy: This therapy can help you identify and change negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to your phobia. It can also help you learn new coping skills to manage your anxiety.

Medication: In some cases, medication may be used to help manage the symptoms of phobia, particularly if the phobia is interfering with your daily life.

Overcoming self-limiting mental conditions takes time and effort, and it’s important to be patient with yourself. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small, and stay committed to your treatment plan. With the right approach and support, you can overcome whatever stops you.

Here’s to the hero within you living a more fulfilling life.

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